Something like two years ago, while searching for information on marriage on Christian sites, I became aware of the different “doctrines of sexuality or gender” which are popuplar in the Christian comunity, especially in the United States. Patriarchy, unashamed and unapologetic belief that men were created to rule and women to submit, in every sphere. Complementarianism, which ranges from hard to soft, from people who subscribe to patriarchy but don’t want to call themselves patriarchalists, and people who believe men and women have distinct and important roles within the family and the church. Egalitarians, or people who believe in complementarity without hierarchy, that is, that God created male and female to complement each other, to work alongside each other, but there is no hierarchy in their relationship.

Two years ago, I self-defined as a soft-complementarian. Today, I am rejecting the title :)

My purpose with these posts is to bring my thoughts on paper (or screen), because I want to have my reasonings written somewhere; To have a series of posts that explain my position which I can send people to if they ask what I believe about the topic; To put my thoughts out there and maybe get feedback or help people think.

Two years ago I discussed these issues with passion, heatedly. Today, I think I have moved on. I have peace and not fear. I no longer believe God likes men better than women, and not because I have seen the beauty of keeping my mouth shut and doing as I’m told.

I will be addressing common and maybe not so well known Complementarian-Patriarchal teachings. Look forward to reading what I think about:
Headship.
Submission.
Authority.
Roles.
Obedience.
Regulations.
Losing touch with reality.
Following the teachings to their logical end.

And more, as they come up.

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